Growing up my brother wound me up. I didn’t get him. He thought things through in detail, he was very serious about everything. He worked to systems, even having a strict system to completing his homework. He didn’t enjoy socializing, having very few friends and was serious in everything he did. He was very closed, not open. I found this kind of strange as a child, not understanding him.
If I knew then what I know now, I would have worked him out when we were very young. We are exact opposites in our behaviours and so we went about things in completely different ways. Here’s a quick test:
Are you fast paced or slower paced? Do you have many projects on the go, trying to get lots of things done quickly? Or are you more precise, more structured and slower paced in your thinking?
Are you open or closed? Do you focus on getting the job done, the detail of what you are doing, and how you are going to complete it? Or are you interested in the person and how they will feel?
We are the way we are. We can’t change this. Some of us go about things at a very fast pace, juggling many things. Others are extremely measured, thinking things through. Some of us are very open and all about the people, who they are, what they feel. Others are more closed, more serious about the job at hand and how to achieve results, being focused and completing it with a checklist.
So the 4 categories are:
Faster paced – Closed - Director*
Faster paced – Open - Socialiser*
Slower paced – Open - Relater*
Slower paced – Closed - Thinker*
We also have a bit of each in us, having different intensities of the behaviour.
“Once you truly know about people, you will succeed at work and in life.”
To find out more about how to build relationships with people, understanding how they behave, I can come and coach your team in a safe, comfortable environment that is conducive for learning. We will initially complete a detailed Behavioural Styles assessment, detailing who you are and how you behave. Then we can work together to achieve goals to work more effectively with people.
* Words taken from The Platinum Rule - a registered trademark of Dr Tony Alessandra used with permission